When bills go unpaid because they are forgotten

Another thing that happened when I went home last week for 2 days was a phone call I received. Fortunately, I was sitting at my desk when the phone rang. It was our mail-in prescription company. The young woman on the phone was explaining something about how the previous 2 different sets of medications that had been mailed had never been paid.

They were processing another set but needed payment for the previous meds. I admit I was totally confused. It had been a while since I had mailed in prescriptions for myself, so my mind was going a bit blank itself. I asked, "Are these meds for me or my husband?" She stated they were my husband's. He owed $118 and some odd cents. With the order she was processing, we owed about $180. This was just our co-pay that had never been paid.

My husband was sitting at his desk. I told him what the woman was telling me. He looked totally unaware of what I was talking about. I reminded him that when our insurance company had switched to a mail-in type prescription plan, we still had a co-pay just like when we go to the pharmacy. He had paid the co-pay before to the mail-in pharmacy. But apparently had forgotten. He looked at me in surprise. He didn't remember at all that there was a co-pay. I guess he thought we just got them free. I asked the woman if I could pay them off over 2 or 3 months. I really didn't feel that I had $180 in one wack. She stated I could do that. I told her my husband was on all of these meds because of his memory. Obviously, they were not helping. I told her if these bills did not get into my hands, I would never know about them and they would not get paid. The bill comes in the package with the meds. My husband takes out his meds and pays no attention to the bill. He simply forgot that he had to pay for them.

I document all of this type of things for the doctor. It feels so bossy and negative to have to do this. But it is necessary. If I don't do this, even against my husband's will, (he does not want to even know what I write) the doctors would never know what is going on until he is so bad that he is ovbious to everyone. I don't want to wait that long to get a proper diagnosis, and hopefully different medications.

Feb 5th is when we go back to the neuropsychologist to go over his tests results and review what is happening.

I am trying to learn to be more patient and kind through all of this. Sometimes I am better than other times.

Emma James