Now we're getting violent

Things are not going well. When I had my husband in the last time to the Neuropsychologist for the neuropsyh tests, I was told he was cognitively normal. I was totally frustrated. I asked them "What is wrong with him then? Her response, "Well, I don't know. But what you are experiencing with him is not what is showing up on the cognitive tests." At that point I had had it. My husband was so excited that he did not have Alzheimer's. Unfortunately I was not. That was the only explanation for the nightmare we have been living. He has been charged with a hideous crime, which I could just not believe. But now I believe it. His lying is getting completely out of control. Since he does not supposedly have Alzheimer's and is "normal" I don't want to put up with the lying anymore. So the other night I challenged him on his lying. I knew he was lying. I could actually prove it. So I confronted him. He is an excellent liar. No mattter what evidence I gave him proving that he was lying, he just got angrier and denied everything. Even though he was in the middle of doing something on the computer which was exactly what I said he was doing. At that point he grabbed me by the arms, twisted them and shoved me against the door.

I told him if he left a bruise on me I would call the cops. He retaliated with, "Well I'm going to call the cops first." So he ran to the kitchen and called 911 and told them "My wife won't leave me alone and is trying to get me to hit her. I want some cops out here right now." He then said to me, "Well, you're going to really get it now." I told him. "You are so stupid. You are the one in trouble. You are the one waiting for a trial, and you are the one who left bruises on me." He then went outside and waited in our driveway in his pajama bottoms for the police. How embarrassing. He complained how he had to get up at 4 in the morning for work and I wouldn't leave him alone.

One of the officers looked at the red marks on my arms and told me if I had bruises in the morning I could go to the Sheriffs office and file assault charges. I told her we would be okay for the night. He would sleep in his room and I would sleep in mine.

What I didn't know was that he had a loaded gun next to his bed. I probably wouldn't have been so brave to stand up to his lies if I had known that. I'm glad I didn't know. They are out of the house now. The next morning I did file charges and put a temporary restraining order on him for 5 days. I had quite the bruises on my arm. He is still working and driving, so seems so very normal to many people. But this incidence I think shows how abnormal he thinks. The police who have had any dealings with him before know he seems quite strange. But the doctors say he is fine. They do not know what they are talking about.

The detective and D.A. were delighted to see me. Because they could tell that I was finally coming to my senses about things he might have done. I still know something is majorly wrong with him. I am going to ask the Judge next week when we see him about the assault charges I brought against him to make him get a regular psychiatric evaluation. We'll see if the judge will make him do it. He certainly won't do it on his own. I really am quite angry with the doctors that I have been pleading for help. They are going to wait until he is in prison before they realize something is wrong. I'm quite angry with the medical process.

I know this is a very negative venting post, but this is very frustrating. His behavior really is more than I can handle. Since he has proven to be "normal" he is compitent to stand trial. He thinks he is going to walk away from the hideous charges that were made against him months ago with a breeze. He doesn't seem to have a clue that he is probably going to end up in prison. If he had been proven to be incompetent, he would have been placed in a state hospital. That is better than a prison.

Time will tell. But I am really getting tired of dealing with this with no help from doctors. If he doesn't have dementia of some kind, I hope somebody finds out what is wrong with him some day and can get him help. Every year he gets worse. He was not like this 8 years ago. 

Well I will keep you posted unless I decide to delete this complete blog. The situation is getting so horrible.

Emma James